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The importance of ritual in journaling

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A key aspect of journaling is preparing the mind and body to begin the process of being creative. Ritual is an important part of this process. Ritual is defined as completing a series of tasks in a particular order. Just as a ritual is used in religious ceremonies to set the mood,  a ritual can be used in journaling to set the mood for creativity. Rituals provide predictability. Once the ritual starts the attendees know what is coming next. The same could be said for journaling. Once the ritual of sitting down to write has begun the body knows how to proceed. In this way, the pump is primed for journaling.

Think back to the last time you heard the Star Spangled Banner at an event. How did you feel? Was there a rush of excitement knowing the event was about to begin?  The use of the Star Spangled Banner before sportings events signals to everyone listening take your seat it is time to begin. The next time you are at an event. Watch how people behave when the music starts. This is a ritual in action.  Another example of a ritual is saying a prayer before eating at the supper table.  We all have rituals in our lives that we use to signal certain behaviors. Harnessing the power of ritual for writing will help develop your creative muscles.

Rituals can be used to signal our brain that it is time to begin. When you create a ritual for journaling it prepares the mind and body to begin the creative process. Many famous writers will tell you they begin the process of writing the same way every time.

I recommended preparing a space for your writing. In this space, you don’t do anything else but write. It could be at a desk or near a favorite window. You want your space to be comfortable. Not to warm or too cold with as little distractions as possible.

In this space, you need to have your journal and writing utensils available. It defeats the purpose of having a ritual if you have to interrupt the ritual to go find a pencil or pen. Provide an area in this space to have everything you need at hand.  Try to write at the same time every day.

Try this for a few weeks and let me know how it works for you. If you need more ideas for journaling, check me out on Instagram.

Journal me well.

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One of the most overlooked tools for dealing with painful emotions is to write in a journal. When I recommend this tool to my clients they have numerous reactions. “I don’t write well.” “I can’t spell” “I don’t know what to write about.” Writing is an essential skill, but for many people, it has been ruined because of experiences in the educational setting.

Writing in a journal does not mean writing an essay with perfect punctuation and grammar. It means writing down feelings, thoughts, and emotions that we can’t really share with other people. In this way, the journal becomes a best friend. The journal is always there. You can write in the middle of the night or during the day. If you are afraid of someone else reading your journal, it can be locked up in a drawer. The other option is to burn what you write.

What most people don’t understand about emotions is that the uncomfortable ones can infect our mind. These emotions sit in our psyche. We ruminate over them. As we stew and fret over how we feel the emotion increases and gets bigger. Pretty soon our mind is overcome with all of this emotion.

Imagine your body as a giant container with a lid. Your emotion is liquid in the container. It circles around the container. The more we think about the feeling the more energy is created. The emotion spins and spins in our mind. In order to receive relief from the emotion, it needs a way out.

The emotion can be released from the body through writing. Once you start the words will flow out of you onto the page. The more you write the better you will feel.

To help my clients start a journal I have created an Instagram where I post daily prompts for writing. I have found the act of thinking about the prompts and what I want to write about that day have been beneficial. It has kept me focused on using writing as a tool to achieve better focus and consistency. It has provided a creative outlet that I didn’t realize I needed until I created the Instagram. 

Come join me over on Instagram and journal with me to a better healthier you. 

 

Welcome to Cristi Haberman’s Counseling Blog.

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Welcome to my blog. This is the place where I am going to share my thoughts about anything counseling related. I have found over the years that most clients come to my office with many labels given to them by different health providers. Yet, many of these clients had never been given any information on what that label means. A major part of the job as a counselor is helping your client to make sense of their inner world. Sometimes using a label helps the client make sense of these experiences. At other times though the client needs concrete information on the disorder they have been labeled with.

Many of the clients that I have visited with over the years did not know that there are concrete symptoms that are needed in order to be diagnosed with a disorder. All of the criteria is located in the current edition of the Diagnostic Manual of Statistical Disorders Edition V or DSMV. There is so much more to making a diagnosis than meeting the criteria for a particular disorder. Many of the disorders have time requirements, meaning that in order to have a particular disorder the symptoms must be present for a certain amount of time. Seems pretty simple at first glance.

Truly though being an excellent diagnostician is more of an art form. This is because multiple disorders have the same symptoms. A good diagnostician will be able to tease out the information needed to make an accurate diagnosis. Many times this process is automatic and happens quickly.  Insurance often dictates how long any health provider may see a client. Because much of the session is spent gathering information, not much time is left to educate the client on how the provider came to the conclusion that a certain disorder is present. The client is usually given a prescription and sent out the door.

This is how they end up in my office.  The client will come in and say they were recommended for counseling. During the information gathering part of the session the client will share their diagnosis. Unfortunately, most of my clients know how a particular disorder feels, but they don’t have accurate information on their disorder. Any google search provides numerous sites on any particular disorder. This information isn’t usually accurate, and really has no meaning unless you can apply it to your own life.

Through this blog I hope to provide information that I feel like my readers can use to help them better manage and cope with what ever disorder they have.  Feel free to drop me a message on any of my social media sites requesting information on any counseling topic.

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